Down Doggie, Meditation, or Vacation?

As I was going through all my surgeries, both friends and doctors would try to coach me to “relax”.  They said it would help with pain management.  How anyone can relax when they are in that type of pain is beyond me.  Nice thought though.


I am, maybe, a type “A” person.  I sometimes have a hard time relaxing because … well, there is always something to do.  Also, I have trouble turning my brain off.  You will never catch me meditating.  Not because I doubt the benefits, but because I would never be able to just sit in one spot with my eyes closed for very long. 


The Torturer tries to get me to meditate while he works on me sometimes.  “Picture the ocean,” he’ll say because he knows I love the beach.  “Can you see the ocean?” he’ll ask.  I answer, “Yes”, but I am thinking, “No!”  I don’t see the ocean.  Instead, I see him moving my body into pretzel formations and it hurts like hell.  I am actually thinking, “When will he be done?” 


One of my girlfriends thought she was being helpful by suggesting I begin yoga somewhere between surgery number 3 and surgery number 4.  “I feel so relaxed when I do Down Doggie,” she said.  I had to explain to her that I wouldn’t be able to Down Doggie with one arm, and if I did … Briefcase would instantly pounce on me.  (Maybe she and I weren’t talking about the same thing?)


Sometimes I do relax though.  Being at the beach, watching the waves relaxes me.  Pretending to be there does not.  Reading relaxes me.  I am an avid reader.  I guess, technically, I am a speed reader although it is something I do naturally and not something I have been trained to do.  Combine a good novel with hanging out at the beach and I’m in heaven. 


While we were in Hawaii I easily finished a novel or two each day even with our other vacation activities.  Trashy, brainless novels to start with.  Once my brain was turned off for a few days I felt the need to turn it back on so I read Anna Karenina.  Nothing like a little Tolstoy to make the brain start working again.  Then once I turned my brain back on, I wondered why I bothered and I went on to mysteries.  When we returned home to real life, I had a hard time getting myself back into the daily grind.  Maybe I was too relaxed? 


What relaxes you?  Not for a fleeting moment, but what does it take to make you really unwind, de-stress, and relax?  Meditation?  Massage?  Exercise?  Yoga?  A certain type of vacation?  A night out?  Down Doggie?  I want to hear!       

27 Responses to “Down Doggie, Meditation, or Vacation?”

  1. jo

    I also have a difficult time shutting down…I am jealous of people who can just sit down anywhere and nap…I took Yoga and found myself making mental “shopping lists” while we were supposed to be focusing on “nothingness”….and later I fell asleep….I think I was supposed to land somewhere in the middle. Anyhow, relaxing for me is a cup of strong coffee and the weekend edition of the New York Times. Now I realize that life in Orange County does not make that so special…but life in Appalachia makes that heaven…not the heaven that John Denver sings about…”almost heaven, West Virignia”….not!
    Then the other relaxing activity is running because it is very cathartic…the relaxation occurs when I’m done!

  2. jo

    I also have a difficult time shutting down…I am jealous of people who can just sit down anywhere and nap…I took Yoga and found myself making mental “shopping lists” while we were supposed to be focusing on “nothingness”….and later I fell asleep….I think I was supposed to land somewhere in the middle. Anyhow, relaxing for me is a cup of strong coffee and the weekend edition of the New York Times. Now I realize that life in Orange County does not make that so special…but life in Appalachia makes that heaven…not the heaven that John Denver sings about…”almost heaven, West Virignia”….not!
    Then the other relaxing activity is running because it is very cathartic…the relaxation occurs when I’m done!

  3. jo

    I also have a difficult time shutting down…I am jealous of people who can just sit down anywhere and nap…I took Yoga and found myself making mental “shopping lists” while we were supposed to be focusing on “nothingness”….and later I fell asleep….I think I was supposed to land somewhere in the middle. Anyhow, relaxing for me is a cup of strong coffee and the weekend edition of the New York Times. Now I realize that life in Orange County does not make that so special…but life in Appalachia makes that heaven…not the heaven that John Denver sings about…”almost heaven, West Virignia”….not!
    Then the other relaxing activity is running because it is very cathartic…the relaxation occurs when I’m done!

  4. Lynn

    I have a hard time relaxing too. I find blogging relaxing, it is mine and mine alone in my house. I also love to read. FBI thrillers and steven king….
    painting also destresses me. I can concentrate on what I am doing and forget the rest of it. Lucky me, I get paid to paint : )

  5. Lynn

    I have a hard time relaxing too. I find blogging relaxing, it is mine and mine alone in my house. I also love to read. FBI thrillers and steven king….
    painting also destresses me. I can concentrate on what I am doing and forget the rest of it. Lucky me, I get paid to paint : )

  6. Lynn

    I have a hard time relaxing too. I find blogging relaxing, it is mine and mine alone in my house. I also love to read. FBI thrillers and steven king….
    painting also destresses me. I can concentrate on what I am doing and forget the rest of it. Lucky me, I get paid to paint : )

  7. RGP

    I can absolutely relate here! I’ve tried meditation only to come out of it thinking of bills I have to pay, what’s for dinner and how much time did I just waste trying to meditate. Ha!
    How do I relax? A cup of coffee, a good movie and/or my computer.
    Love the post. Glad I found this blog!

  8. RGP

    I can absolutely relate here! I’ve tried meditation only to come out of it thinking of bills I have to pay, what’s for dinner and how much time did I just waste trying to meditate. Ha!
    How do I relax? A cup of coffee, a good movie and/or my computer.
    Love the post. Glad I found this blog!

  9. RGP

    I can absolutely relate here! I’ve tried meditation only to come out of it thinking of bills I have to pay, what’s for dinner and how much time did I just waste trying to meditate. Ha!
    How do I relax? A cup of coffee, a good movie and/or my computer.
    Love the post. Glad I found this blog!

  10. alntv

    I’m not sure what you mean…relax? Whay does this mean? I have 2 kids and bills out the ying-yang. The only one doing Doggie Down is me while the government pounces! LOL
    Actually, I enjoy playing basketball and lately I’ve found spinning to be a nice outlet.

  11. alntv

    I’m not sure what you mean…relax? Whay does this mean? I have 2 kids and bills out the ying-yang. The only one doing Doggie Down is me while the government pounces! LOL
    Actually, I enjoy playing basketball and lately I’ve found spinning to be a nice outlet.

  12. alntv

    I’m not sure what you mean…relax? Whay does this mean? I have 2 kids and bills out the ying-yang. The only one doing Doggie Down is me while the government pounces! LOL
    Actually, I enjoy playing basketball and lately I’ve found spinning to be a nice outlet.

  13. Janie @ Midlife Slices

    I’m the same way as you about relaxing, and I can’t honestly tell you how I DO relax or even if I do, but I can say your comment about briefcase pouncing made me laugh outloud and that’s probably as relaxed as I’ve been all day. Thanks for the grins.:)

  14. Janie @ Midlife Slices

    I’m the same way as you about relaxing, and I can’t honestly tell you how I DO relax or even if I do, but I can say your comment about briefcase pouncing made me laugh outloud and that’s probably as relaxed as I’ve been all day. Thanks for the grins.:)

  15. Janie @ Midlife Slices

    I’m the same way as you about relaxing, and I can’t honestly tell you how I DO relax or even if I do, but I can say your comment about briefcase pouncing made me laugh outloud and that’s probably as relaxed as I’ve been all day. Thanks for the grins.:)

  16. Romi

    For some reason I relax at movie theaters to point of passing out cold in a dead sleep, even if it is the most action packed movie out there. I can’t do this anywhere else. As for meditation…forget it…it wasn’t hardwired into my brain and never will be. I do like to read more than anything and that relaxes me more than anything else.

  17. Romi

    For some reason I relax at movie theaters to point of passing out cold in a dead sleep, even if it is the most action packed movie out there. I can’t do this anywhere else. As for meditation…forget it…it wasn’t hardwired into my brain and never will be. I do like to read more than anything and that relaxes me more than anything else.

  18. Romi

    For some reason I relax at movie theaters to point of passing out cold in a dead sleep, even if it is the most action packed movie out there. I can’t do this anywhere else. As for meditation…forget it…it wasn’t hardwired into my brain and never will be. I do like to read more than anything and that relaxes me more than anything else.

  19. Romi

    um, it should say, to the point in my previous post…I guess I was too relaxed to type that:-)

  20. Romi

    um, it should say, to the point in my previous post…I guess I was too relaxed to type that:-)

  21. Romi

    um, it should say, to the point in my previous post…I guess I was too relaxed to type that:-)

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