Do you like Valentine's Day?
Does anyone past the age of 24 really like Valentine's Day?
As a parent, I realize hearts and flowers and having someone important in your life are all very critical elements to teens. Once we grow up, what then?
I'm the first to admit I'm not the most romantic person on earth. I'd rather give or receive a laugh-out-loud funny card than some long, mushy, Hallmark poem. (It would be different if it was a poem written from someone's heart … but let's talk real life, okay?)
It isn't that I don't like romantic gestures, because I do. I just don't care for contrived, forced down your throat, gestures. I also hate over-crowded restaurants with "set" menus for the evening. Bleh! (I'd rather go out the night before, or the night after, V-Day when it's less crowded and restaurants provide better service.)
Quite honestly, the most romantic meal in the world would be if a man put the effort into making a candlelit dinner for two at home. This is something I must be content to merely fantasize about. If Briefcase were to make me dinner it would consist of a bowl of Cap N Crunch and a 100 watt light bulb.
I've been polling people all week on their Valentine's thoughts.
For men, it seems like Valentine's is a holiday they hate except for the hope of sex if they come through with the right gifts. They know they're
not screwed if they fuck up the expectations of their significant other. There's a mix of dread and fear on the part of the men I talked to. They know there are expectations centered on them. They don't want to mess up, but at the same time they'll be relieved once it's over.
As an aside, Briefcase was not one of the men I talked to. He's off sunning himself in the tropics still. I would bet a good deal of money he doesn't even know Valentine's Day is this weekend.
Women? Well, we're all different. I guess that's what makes it such a challenge for men. Most (but not all) of the women I talked to felt flowers were a must. I think it goes back to our teen years when only one or two
sluts girls walked around high school with roses from their boyfriend on Valentine's Day. All the rest of us socially inept teens looked on in awe and hoped someday we'd get flowers too.
Some women, however, think flowers are a waste of money. Some want chocolate, but others feel chocolate is insensitive if they are trying to diet. Some women like sexy lingerie and others feel it is a gift "for the man" and not for them. And on and on it goes … confusion, angst, and the effort to get it "just right."
Maybe that's the very reason so many couples mentioned to me they fight a lot on Valentine's Day. Cupid is an asshole, or so it seems. Couples all over the world are getting in arguments because of him. (OK fine, maybe it's also because of poor communication.)
One of the best Valentine's Days I ever had was the first year Briefcase had to travel and be away for the holiday. We were newly married and I was crushed he would be gone. I had zero expectations going into the day. Briefcase must have felt very bad about his absence because he created surprises for me all day long. Flower deliveries (two!), gift deliveries, a card informing me we had reservations at a nice restaurant for the night after his return. Every few hours, all day long, there was another little surprise. It was fun even though he wasn't home to celebrate with me.
When he did get home, I made sure he knew how appreciative I was of his thoughtfulness.
Sigh … newlyweds!
My worst Valentine's Day? When Briefcase completely forgot it even was Valentine's Day. Then he called as he was driving home from work to ask what was for dinner. I was so mad at that point, I told him to drive through Taco Bell and pick up his own dinner.
Surely you're not surprised I can be a bitch?
What was your best or worst Valentine's Day?