I get CNN articles delivered to my Google Reader. Yesterday CNN had an article, Why Funny Guys Get the Babes, about women preferring funny men over boring ones. Well, the article didn't call the non-funny men boring but let's face it, if you don't have a sense of humor you're a bore.
At least, to me.
Women apparently rated funny men as more intelligent and honest than non-funny men. Intelligence and honesty are qualities women find important in long term relationships as well as friendships. Being funny takes intelligence. Thus, funny men are more attractive, and more sought after by women than non-funny men. That's the Twenty Four At Heart summary of the article in a nutshell.
Well, except for one thing. Men, apparently, don't care if their women are funny. Men only care that their women be women. That's right, a woman just needs to have a vagina and a man is happy.
OK, so perhaps I'm paraphrasing a little … but let's go with it.
The article said, "research suggests that men don't care much about women's sense of humor."
Can I add … "as long as she's got big tits and/or a tight ass."
As I mentioned a minute ago, I'm paraphrasing a little.
Men are also, according to the article, a little narcissistic.
"A man wants a woman who laughs at his jokes and is not too bothered if his girl isn't funny at all," the article said.
Would that be the infamous Male Ego rearing it's very big head?
[Insert joke about big male heads <here>. ]
Is it true that men don't care if a lump of a personality sits next to them as long as that lump laughs at their jokes?
The article did say when women are very funny, to the point of illiciting laughter (instead of just a smile or a chuckle I suppose), they are viewed as favorably as funny men are. But by whom? By other women? Or by men? Or by both?
I know I, personally, have a high regard for both intelligence and a sense of humor. Both characteristics were mandatory for men I dated in my pre-Briefcase days. When I look at the male friends who are important in my life, they all make me laugh. However, the female friends I value the most are women with a great sense of humor also.
Life is short, I want friends I can laugh with. Which is not to say, there's always a lot to laugh about. When I look back at the worst parts of my accident recovery (days when I could barely inhale because the pain was so severe) there were people even then who could make me smile. Isn't that how we get through the worst life has to offer? By searching high and low to find the humor in our lives?
I'd like to hear from both men and women on this one. How important is a sense of humor in a mate to you? How about in your friendships? Does gender really matter? Is it true men don't care whether or not their women are funny?
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