She Thinks She’s an IT Girl

Every time I think I've seen the worst Orange County has to offer I meet a new obnoxious person to tell you about.  Honestly, there are nice people here too … really, there are.

About a week ago I attended a lunch "event" put on by one of my girlfriends.  My friend is nice, warm and down to earth.  She's gotten involved in an organization and blah, blah, blah.  Before she knew it, a luncheon was planned with her as the hostess.  She invited me to join in and in a moment of sheer insanity I agreed.

I am NOT a luncheon type woman.  Being at a luncheon requires girly clothes and good behavior.  Both are an uncomfortable stretch for me.

There were fifteen women present and we were seated at three circular tables of five.  I knew no one at the event except for my friend who was busy with her hostess duties.  I was seated at a table with four total strangers.

Socializing with strangers is not my forte.  

Immediately Ms. Warm began chatting with me and she seemed very nice.  I instantly could tell she is a good person.  It turns out she's actually read Twenty Four At Heart before and left an occasional comment under a pseudonym.  It's a small world sometimes.

The last person to be seated at our table immediately repelled me.  She was loud, abrasive, and from the moment she entered the room all I heard coming out of her mouth was me, me, me.  I noticed Ms. Warm cringe slightly when she realized Ms. Me would be sitting with us.  Apparently, Ms. Me and Ms. Warm had met before.

I never knew a lunch could be so long.  Ms. Me apparently is a celebrity.  Personally, I think she should move to L.A. with all the other wannabes.  Her notoriety is derived from a few parts as an "extra" over the years and being in the background of a TV commercial.  Not exactly a celebrity in my book, but in her own mind she is a STAR.

I know this, because she told me so.  Over, and over, and over again.

Name dropping is a profession in L.A., and a time consuming hobby for many in Orange County.  Ms. Me took her name dropping very seriously.  She "knows" everyone, but more importantly they know her.  She name dropped incessantly, but it was always about how [insert name of Famous Person] just adores her.  Five minutes into our (very one-sided) conversation I felt like putting a gun to my head in an attempt to never have to hear another word out of her mouth.

The other women at the table all attempted to steer the conversation to other subjects, but Ms. Me made it virtually impossible.  I asked one woman if she had any kids and what their ages were and Ms. Me cut her off mid-sentence to tell me about her family.  No matter how we tried, Ms. Me managed to monopolize the conversation for two full hours.  By the end of the afternoon everyone at the table looked glassy-eyed and worn down from being subjected to her relentless chatter.

I did have my own personal Bitch Moment.  I couldn't resist.  Towards the end of the afternoon she made the mistake of name dropping the wrong person … my cousin, in fact.  (My cousin is a Hollywood Type.)  According to Ms. Me, my cousin is star struck by Ms. Me.  I didn't believe any most of what Ms. Me said anyway, but I knew damn well she's never met my cousin.  

So . . . I called her on it.  I had long before given up any attempt to inject anything into the conversation, but at that point I couldn't resist a little name dropping of my own.

"Oh, you know XXXXX?

Ms. Me answered, "Oh of course, she's very interested in working with me but it just hasn't happened yet."

"Well, isn't that funny?  She's my cousin.  I'll have to bring up your name next time I see her."

Ms. Me went as white as a ghost, pursed her lips and broke eye contact.  She sputtered something about not having seen XXXXX (my cousin) "in quite some time." 

Watching her hem and haw and react like that?  Well, that was the highlight of the entire afternoon for me.  I'm a bitch, I know.

Why?  Why do some people feel such a strong need to impress others?  She did not impress any of us in the least.  In fact, I was so appalled by her I will do my best to never encounter Ms. Me again.  

96 Responses to “She Thinks She’s an IT Girl”

  1. Elaina

    Wow. I felt like I wrote this post. I’ve been having a hard time with this lately.
    Why do people act like that? Here…especially? I don’t get it. It’s a terrible turn off. Almost to the point that it makes me become even more quiet and aching to avoid those who think they’re IT girls. I’ll die in obscurity if being an “it” girl means I have to act like the me, me, me chick you wrote about.
    The only answer I can come up with is that they have ZERO self esteem. None. Nada. Zilch. It’s the only way the so called “it” girls can make themselves feel worthy, needed, important, blahblahblah.
    Whatever the reason, she/they should just shut up already. Thanks for writing this! I knew I liked you! 🙂

  2. Elaina

    Wow. I felt like I wrote this post. I’ve been having a hard time with this lately.
    Why do people act like that? Here…especially? I don’t get it. It’s a terrible turn off. Almost to the point that it makes me become even more quiet and aching to avoid those who think they’re IT girls. I’ll die in obscurity if being an “it” girl means I have to act like the me, me, me chick you wrote about.
    The only answer I can come up with is that they have ZERO self esteem. None. Nada. Zilch. It’s the only way the so called “it” girls can make themselves feel worthy, needed, important, blahblahblah.
    Whatever the reason, she/they should just shut up already. Thanks for writing this! I knew I liked you! 🙂

  3. Elaina

    Wow. I felt like I wrote this post. I’ve been having a hard time with this lately.
    Why do people act like that? Here…especially? I don’t get it. It’s a terrible turn off. Almost to the point that it makes me become even more quiet and aching to avoid those who think they’re IT girls. I’ll die in obscurity if being an “it” girl means I have to act like the me, me, me chick you wrote about.
    The only answer I can come up with is that they have ZERO self esteem. None. Nada. Zilch. It’s the only way the so called “it” girls can make themselves feel worthy, needed, important, blahblahblah.
    Whatever the reason, she/they should just shut up already. Thanks for writing this! I knew I liked you! 🙂

  4. SSG

    Man, how many hours did you spend with this woman? I think I may have been bitchier, though probably only in my head. What was she wearing? Was she a plastic money town woman?

  5. SSG

    Man, how many hours did you spend with this woman? I think I may have been bitchier, though probably only in my head. What was she wearing? Was she a plastic money town woman?

  6. SSG

    Man, how many hours did you spend with this woman? I think I may have been bitchier, though probably only in my head. What was she wearing? Was she a plastic money town woman?

  7. American in Norway

    She is socially retarded… I think it is sad really… Very sad that someone who loves her…(there must be SOMEONE who loves her…) can’t tell her to Tone it down… She must be very insecure… Someone should tape her & make her listen/watch herself…

  8. American in Norway

    She is socially retarded… I think it is sad really… Very sad that someone who loves her…(there must be SOMEONE who loves her…) can’t tell her to Tone it down… She must be very insecure… Someone should tape her & make her listen/watch herself…

  9. American in Norway

    She is socially retarded… I think it is sad really… Very sad that someone who loves her…(there must be SOMEONE who loves her…) can’t tell her to Tone it down… She must be very insecure… Someone should tape her & make her listen/watch herself…

  10. Deidre

    I’m so impressed you had the capacity to put the smack down! I always think that stuff in my head but can never spit it out!

  11. Deidre

    I’m so impressed you had the capacity to put the smack down! I always think that stuff in my head but can never spit it out!

  12. Deidre

    I’m so impressed you had the capacity to put the smack down! I always think that stuff in my head but can never spit it out!

  13. sherendipity

    Some people boast and make their life seem better than it really is so people will be jealous (ya, right) and make that person feel better about themselves.
    It’s ridiculous.

  14. sherendipity

    Some people boast and make their life seem better than it really is so people will be jealous (ya, right) and make that person feel better about themselves.
    It’s ridiculous.

  15. sherendipity

    Some people boast and make their life seem better than it really is so people will be jealous (ya, right) and make that person feel better about themselves.
    It’s ridiculous.

  16. Joanne

    too bad you couldn’t have just pulled off your bad arm and beat her to death with it, huh?

  17. Joanne

    too bad you couldn’t have just pulled off your bad arm and beat her to death with it, huh?

  18. Joanne

    too bad you couldn’t have just pulled off your bad arm and beat her to death with it, huh?

  19. sometimessophia

    A personal Bitch Moment… Good for you. How tiresome she must have been. Too bad you didn’t spill your glass of wine down the front of her dress. By the time she came back from the lady’s room, you could have removed her place setting at the table. 😉

  20. sometimessophia

    A personal Bitch Moment… Good for you. How tiresome she must have been. Too bad you didn’t spill your glass of wine down the front of her dress. By the time she came back from the lady’s room, you could have removed her place setting at the table. 😉

  21. sometimessophia

    A personal Bitch Moment… Good for you. How tiresome she must have been. Too bad you didn’t spill your glass of wine down the front of her dress. By the time she came back from the lady’s room, you could have removed her place setting at the table. 😉

  22. di

    Must have sounded like that Charlie Brown teacher sound… wah wah wah wah. Sorry you were subjected to her wah wah wah wah.
    Di
    The Blue Ridge Gal

  23. di

    Must have sounded like that Charlie Brown teacher sound… wah wah wah wah. Sorry you were subjected to her wah wah wah wah.
    Di
    The Blue Ridge Gal

  24. di

    Must have sounded like that Charlie Brown teacher sound… wah wah wah wah. Sorry you were subjected to her wah wah wah wah.
    Di
    The Blue Ridge Gal

  25. Lori

    Nothing like an obnoxious person to drain the fun or any pleasantness out of a gathering. Gatherings like you spoke of here, are not my cup of tea either and so encountering someone like this would have been the reason I avoid going to things like this. I agree with other commentors that she must be really insecure and have low self esteem to act like this but it doesn’t make her any less annoying. I try to avoid being around “it” girls as much as I can. I’m glad you called her out. Happy Mothers Day!

  26. Lori

    Nothing like an obnoxious person to drain the fun or any pleasantness out of a gathering. Gatherings like you spoke of here, are not my cup of tea either and so encountering someone like this would have been the reason I avoid going to things like this. I agree with other commentors that she must be really insecure and have low self esteem to act like this but it doesn’t make her any less annoying. I try to avoid being around “it” girls as much as I can. I’m glad you called her out. Happy Mothers Day!

  27. Lori

    Nothing like an obnoxious person to drain the fun or any pleasantness out of a gathering. Gatherings like you spoke of here, are not my cup of tea either and so encountering someone like this would have been the reason I avoid going to things like this. I agree with other commentors that she must be really insecure and have low self esteem to act like this but it doesn’t make her any less annoying. I try to avoid being around “it” girls as much as I can. I’m glad you called her out. Happy Mothers Day!

  28. nicki

    people suck plain and simple and some people are just so stuck on themselves they can’t see that we don’t find them nearly as interesting as they think they are.

  29. nicki

    people suck plain and simple and some people are just so stuck on themselves they can’t see that we don’t find them nearly as interesting as they think they are.

  30. nicki

    people suck plain and simple and some people are just so stuck on themselves they can’t see that we don’t find them nearly as interesting as they think they are.

  31. Margie

    Good going, girl. I hope you got her number so that when you ask your cousin about her you can call her and tell her your cousin had never heard of her. But NOW she knows who you are FOR SURE. Oh, I crack myself up. 🙂

  32. Margie

    Good going, girl. I hope you got her number so that when you ask your cousin about her you can call her and tell her your cousin had never heard of her. But NOW she knows who you are FOR SURE. Oh, I crack myself up. 🙂

  33. Margie

    Good going, girl. I hope you got her number so that when you ask your cousin about her you can call her and tell her your cousin had never heard of her. But NOW she knows who you are FOR SURE. Oh, I crack myself up. 🙂

  34. Jan

    I started to cringe at the word “luncheon” – like you, socializing with strangers at formal, “girlie” functions is not my forte.
    I imagine watching her sputter over your cousin was probably the highlight over everyone at the table’s afternoon. You were NOT being a bitch. *I* would have been a bitch – telling a person to shut their goddamn mouth for three minutes so someone else can talk is being bitchy, isn’t it? ‘Cause it would have SO happened.

  35. Jan

    I started to cringe at the word “luncheon” – like you, socializing with strangers at formal, “girlie” functions is not my forte.
    I imagine watching her sputter over your cousin was probably the highlight over everyone at the table’s afternoon. You were NOT being a bitch. *I* would have been a bitch – telling a person to shut their goddamn mouth for three minutes so someone else can talk is being bitchy, isn’t it? ‘Cause it would have SO happened.

  36. Jan

    I started to cringe at the word “luncheon” – like you, socializing with strangers at formal, “girlie” functions is not my forte.
    I imagine watching her sputter over your cousin was probably the highlight over everyone at the table’s afternoon. You were NOT being a bitch. *I* would have been a bitch – telling a person to shut their goddamn mouth for three minutes so someone else can talk is being bitchy, isn’t it? ‘Cause it would have SO happened.

  37. Kristan

    Good lord, she TOTALLY deserved it! And isn’t it silly how people will try so hard to impress others, when look at what’s really impressive? Warmth, consideration, humility.

  38. Kristan

    Good lord, she TOTALLY deserved it! And isn’t it silly how people will try so hard to impress others, when look at what’s really impressive? Warmth, consideration, humility.

  39. Kristan

    Good lord, she TOTALLY deserved it! And isn’t it silly how people will try so hard to impress others, when look at what’s really impressive? Warmth, consideration, humility.

  40. Linda

    24, I SO would have bitch slapped that chick! Cuz “Excuse me but it’s not your turn to talk” wasn’t gonna cut it! It would have been ugly. And the look on her face when you called her out on the carpet? I’m sure it was priceless!
    Sophia is so polite isn’t she? And I was thinking the same as Di; wah wah wah wah. Jan, I loved you B4 but it’s cemented now.

  41. Linda

    24, I SO would have bitch slapped that chick! Cuz “Excuse me but it’s not your turn to talk” wasn’t gonna cut it! It would have been ugly. And the look on her face when you called her out on the carpet? I’m sure it was priceless!
    Sophia is so polite isn’t she? And I was thinking the same as Di; wah wah wah wah. Jan, I loved you B4 but it’s cemented now.

  42. Linda

    24, I SO would have bitch slapped that chick! Cuz “Excuse me but it’s not your turn to talk” wasn’t gonna cut it! It would have been ugly. And the look on her face when you called her out on the carpet? I’m sure it was priceless!
    Sophia is so polite isn’t she? And I was thinking the same as Di; wah wah wah wah. Jan, I loved you B4 but it’s cemented now.

  43. Kelly

    I can picture this entire thing PERFECTLY. That’s a credit to you. I can’t stand this type of woman. I agree with the others, shes basically an insecure unconfident person. I love you for giving her a verbal smack down!

  44. Kelly

    I can picture this entire thing PERFECTLY. That’s a credit to you. I can’t stand this type of woman. I agree with the others, shes basically an insecure unconfident person. I love you for giving her a verbal smack down!

  45. Kelly

    I can picture this entire thing PERFECTLY. That’s a credit to you. I can’t stand this type of woman. I agree with the others, shes basically an insecure unconfident person. I love you for giving her a verbal smack down!

  46. Grace

    HA! I’m sure the other ladies at the table relished in that moment when you called Ms. Me on that relationship with your cousin. I’m sure Ms. Me will be avoiding YOU at the next encounter since she knows you’re real and will not hesitate to “call her” on any untruths she’s sputtering.

  47. Grace

    HA! I’m sure the other ladies at the table relished in that moment when you called Ms. Me on that relationship with your cousin. I’m sure Ms. Me will be avoiding YOU at the next encounter since she knows you’re real and will not hesitate to “call her” on any untruths she’s sputtering.

  48. Grace

    HA! I’m sure the other ladies at the table relished in that moment when you called Ms. Me on that relationship with your cousin. I’m sure Ms. Me will be avoiding YOU at the next encounter since she knows you’re real and will not hesitate to “call her” on any untruths she’s sputtering.

  49. Pat VanderBeek

    I feel your pain. I also have been stuck at a table socially with a narcissist and I had the same gun-to-the head fantasy after just 45 minutes of mr. me’s monologue.

  50. Pat VanderBeek

    I feel your pain. I also have been stuck at a table socially with a narcissist and I had the same gun-to-the head fantasy after just 45 minutes of mr. me’s monologue.

  51. Pat VanderBeek

    I feel your pain. I also have been stuck at a table socially with a narcissist and I had the same gun-to-the head fantasy after just 45 minutes of mr. me’s monologue.

  52. Kirsten Wright

    Wow – that is just about the most hysterically awful afternoon I could imagine. I am so glad that you were able to get her goat a little bit. And that’s not being a bitch, that’s being fed up with a bitch. She deserved it. Good for you!
    And the fact that you didn’t mention names shows how classy you really are!

  53. Kirsten Wright

    Wow – that is just about the most hysterically awful afternoon I could imagine. I am so glad that you were able to get her goat a little bit. And that’s not being a bitch, that’s being fed up with a bitch. She deserved it. Good for you!
    And the fact that you didn’t mention names shows how classy you really are!

  54. Kirsten Wright

    Wow – that is just about the most hysterically awful afternoon I could imagine. I am so glad that you were able to get her goat a little bit. And that’s not being a bitch, that’s being fed up with a bitch. She deserved it. Good for you!
    And the fact that you didn’t mention names shows how classy you really are!

  55. LPC

    She sounds diagnosable. Like, in the not normal kind of way.

  56. LPC

    She sounds diagnosable. Like, in the not normal kind of way.

  57. LPC

    She sounds diagnosable. Like, in the not normal kind of way.

  58. Pseudo

    Great post. Exactly what I don’t miss about LA. Now that I’m getting older, I just think it is so sad when people think their own importance lies in connections with others. Or things. Or things and others 😉

  59. Pseudo

    Great post. Exactly what I don’t miss about LA. Now that I’m getting older, I just think it is so sad when people think their own importance lies in connections with others. Or things. Or things and others 😉

  60. Pseudo

    Great post. Exactly what I don’t miss about LA. Now that I’m getting older, I just think it is so sad when people think their own importance lies in connections with others. Or things. Or things and others 😉

  61. Smart Mouth Broad

    It is for this very reason that you have to be very careful when choosing friends in PBC. Here it’s more about money than celebrity but it’s the same shallow principle.

  62. Smart Mouth Broad

    It is for this very reason that you have to be very careful when choosing friends in PBC. Here it’s more about money than celebrity but it’s the same shallow principle.

  63. Smart Mouth Broad

    It is for this very reason that you have to be very careful when choosing friends in PBC. Here it’s more about money than celebrity but it’s the same shallow principle.

  64. PAPA

    I love the nicknames. Keep em’ coming.
    I wonder what my nickname would be?

  65. PAPA

    I love the nicknames. Keep em’ coming.
    I wonder what my nickname would be?

  66. PAPA

    I love the nicknames. Keep em’ coming.
    I wonder what my nickname would be?

  67. Sugee

    I love it when someone who deserves it gets called out. 🙂 Nice job!

  68. Sugee

    I love it when someone who deserves it gets called out. 🙂 Nice job!

  69. Sugee

    I love it when someone who deserves it gets called out. 🙂 Nice job!

  70. dogmother

    Love it when people get called on their BS…good work!

  71. dogmother

    Love it when people get called on their BS…good work!

  72. dogmother

    Love it when people get called on their BS…good work!

  73. Midlife Slices

    Oh how I hate those kinds of “luncheons” and those kinds of people. No wonder I’m a self imposed hermit most of the time. I wish I could have witnessed you calling her out on the cousin thing. LOL That would have been worth the two hours of torture you had to endure to get to that point.

  74. Midlife Slices

    Oh how I hate those kinds of “luncheons” and those kinds of people. No wonder I’m a self imposed hermit most of the time. I wish I could have witnessed you calling her out on the cousin thing. LOL That would have been worth the two hours of torture you had to endure to get to that point.

  75. Midlife Slices

    Oh how I hate those kinds of “luncheons” and those kinds of people. No wonder I’m a self imposed hermit most of the time. I wish I could have witnessed you calling her out on the cousin thing. LOL That would have been worth the two hours of torture you had to endure to get to that point.

  76. Judy

    I have a ‘Ms Me’ in my world too. Her world stopped some 20 odd years ago when she played Rizzo in a highschool production of Grease. Doesn’t matter what the topic is she can find a way to bring it back around to the fact that she played Rizzo in Grease LOL. I think its sad. Ms Me needs a loving friend to gently push her toward self worth outside of her commercial success or lack thereof LOL. Had I been sitting at that table with you I am sure I would have had a bitch moment a hellofa lot faster than you did. Hope you have a wonderful week!

  77. Judy

    I have a ‘Ms Me’ in my world too. Her world stopped some 20 odd years ago when she played Rizzo in a highschool production of Grease. Doesn’t matter what the topic is she can find a way to bring it back around to the fact that she played Rizzo in Grease LOL. I think its sad. Ms Me needs a loving friend to gently push her toward self worth outside of her commercial success or lack thereof LOL. Had I been sitting at that table with you I am sure I would have had a bitch moment a hellofa lot faster than you did. Hope you have a wonderful week!

  78. Judy

    I have a ‘Ms Me’ in my world too. Her world stopped some 20 odd years ago when she played Rizzo in a highschool production of Grease. Doesn’t matter what the topic is she can find a way to bring it back around to the fact that she played Rizzo in Grease LOL. I think its sad. Ms Me needs a loving friend to gently push her toward self worth outside of her commercial success or lack thereof LOL. Had I been sitting at that table with you I am sure I would have had a bitch moment a hellofa lot faster than you did. Hope you have a wonderful week!

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