Last year I did a series of posts on men, women, and the gender gap between the sexes. That conversation opened up some very frank sexual discussions on Twenty Four At Heart.
Those posts were read by Neil Kramer over at Citizen of the Month and through them he and I began to become acquainted in the way blogging people sometimes do. Now, several months later, I consider Neil a friend although we've yet to meet in person. Two nights ago Neil began a Twitter conversation and it got me thinking about a lot of those same male/female issues again.
Neil began the whole discussion by saying women understand men better than men understand women. I commented back that women, in general, are more intuitive with their people skills than most men are. I added also, men are too caught up with their penises to be developing intuition towards women or some of those same people skills.
Disclaimer: This whole conversation was based on generalities. You don't need to tell me about your Uncle Larry who is in touch with his feminine side and has amazing, intuitive, people skills. Nor do I want to hear about Aunt Imelda who spends all day touching herself in a corner and has no people skills whatsoever. I realize full well these stereotypes don't always apply.
Let's back up. Do you agree with the statement women understand men better than men understand women? Personally, I agree with Neil on this one. I think women understand men better than men understand women.
Are women more complicated than men? Maybe. I don't think I'm complicated in the least. When asked, Briefcase however, says I am. He tells me I'm less complicated than many women he's met, but I'm "certainly not simple."
Really? I had no idea he thought I'm anything but extremely easy to figure out. In fact, if asked, I'd say I'm transparent. Hmmm.
Are men too dense or unwilling to figure women out? Too dense? I don't think so. Women spend time trying to understand and anticipate the needs of the people who are important to them. The men I know (*ahem*) don't give it a thought. Men, the majority of time, tend to show up and then deal with whatever's on the table.
Do you feel men are the more complicated sex? Let's be honest here. Men are pretty easy to please. Good sex, good food, and lots of ego stroking. Does it really take much more than that?
Neil went on to contradict himself a few times throughout the evening. Initially he stated men don't think about naked women all the time.
Of course men don't think about naked women all the time. There are moments when men think about food or their work. Wasn't there a study done with results indicating a sexual thought goes through a man's mind approximately every 7 seconds? Clearly, that leaves 6 seconds for other non-naked thoughts to fill a man's mind.
Neil asked if we (Twitter) thought he'd jump into bed with a woman if he came home and found one in his bed.
Unless she was absolutely and extremely repugnant (meaning: dead), yes Neil, I do.
He seemed to imply most men are too romantic to do so.
Isn't he funny? I think that's one of the reasons I like Neil so much. He makes me laugh all the time. I especially laugh when he makes statements like that.
Theoretically it's possible for a man to be romantic. In most relationships, once the initial courtship is over, romance is scarce if existent at all.
Then Neil asked me point blank if I, personally, assumed he would be checking me out when we meet in Chicago at BlogHer (writer's convention) in July just because he's a man and I'm not.
I replied no and I meant it. I certainly don't expect Neil to be checking me out at BlogHer.
Do I think Neil will be checking out many of the young, hot, mommy bloggers he openly covets while he's there? Absolutely. I think it would be physically impossible for him not to.
Next Neil contradicted his earlier statement by asking if it bothers women that men sexualize everything we do. He asked if women "just accept it."
Which is it? Are men not thinking about us naked all the time or are they sexualizing everything we do?
When I enter a room and my now bionic, hyper-sensitive, nipples pucker prominently do the men in the room assume I'm hot for them? Because, honestly, I'm probably not thinking about those men at all. In addition, it isn't even crossing my mind they are noticing my boobilicious nipples. I'm busy thinking about other things.
If I bend over to pick something up, what happens? Are the men in the room noticing my not-as-firm-as-it-should-be (meaning: jello) ass and thinking about doggy style sex? Or do they just think, "Oh look, 24 dropped something."
There's a lot of points up for discussion today. What do you think?
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