I have an interesting story to share with you today and I'm curious as to what your opinion will be. It's sort of like the recent hit movie The Hangover, except completely different. I'm also wondering if my male and female readers will vary a lot in how they look at this situation.
This story is absolutely true. It's also very sensitive so I'm changing the names of everyone involved along with a few inconsequential details.
I have a friendly acquaintance with a woman named Tanya. Tanya was very excited to become engaged to her long time boyfriend, Dave, about six weeks ago. Tanya and Dave are about 30 years old and this will be a first marriage for both of them.
Dave has a friend named Mike. Mike got married three weeks ago to Dawn. The two couples hang out together a lot. They're at similar life stages.
Are you following this? Tanya and Dave just got engaged and Mike and Dawn just got married.
About a week ago Tanya used Dave's digital camera with Dave's permission. As she was reviewing the photos she took she found some very explicit photos Dave had taken at Mike's bachelor party. Strippers had been hired and from what Tanya saw things had gone too far. She was pissed.
Tanya confronted Dave and demanded he tell her "everything" that happened at Mike's bachelor party. Dave did. Dave even told her the part where he went looking for Mike, opened a bedroom door and found Mike having sex with one of the women hired as a stripper. A few nights prior to his marriage Mike had sex with a
whore stripper at his bachelor's party.
Tanya was disgusted and dismayed by this information. She and Dave discussed it at length because she felt it was her duty to inform the unsuspecting Dawn of Mike's indiscretion. Dave was adamant that Tanya stay quiet and not disrupt the three week old marriage of his friend Mike.
By the way, Tanya and Dawn are friends but the primary friendship had always been between the two men.
About a week ago the two couples went out to dinner and a movie as a double date. During the course of the evening, Tanya found herself talking to Dawn as the two men were immersed in a discussion of sports. Tanya told Dawn her brand new husband of three weeks had paid a
whore stripper to have sex at his bachelor's party.
Dawn waited to confront Mike until later that night when they got home. Mike lied to Dawn and told her he most definitely had not touched another woman since they began dating. Mike convinced Dawn that Dave and Tanya have set out to destroy their marriage for some unknown reason.
Dawn believes her new husband.
Dawn now hates Tanya for telling lies and trying to destroy her marriage. Mike now hates Dave for telling Tanya what happened and "causing" all these problems. The two couples are no longer speaking.
Dave is angry with Tanya for telling Dawn the details of the bachelor's party. He had forbidden her from sharing the information with Dawn when he disclosed it.
What do you think of this little soap opera? Who's right and who's wrong? Is it okay to have sex with a paid whore at a bachelor party since you aren't married yet? Is it okay to lie to your betrothed about it? Does it happen all the time at bachelor parties?
Should Dave have told Tanya? Should Tanya have kept her mouth shut? Was she doing the right thing by informing her friend what had happened? Would you want a friend to tell you if your wife/husband had sex with someone else just days before your wedding. (Men – reverse the situation – what if a male stripper came to your wife's bachelorette party and she paid him for "one last fling?")
I can't wait to hear everyone's thoughts!
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