One Love?

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I first noticed him as I waited to board my plane.  I don't know exactly why he caught my attention.  He was nice looking, but I probably wouldn't have even noticed him in different circumstances.  I would guess his age to be in his mid-fifties.  He was slightly rumpled looking, but that's not unusual in an airport either. 

There was just something about his eyes when he glanced up.  I was instantly struck with the thought, "He's kind."  Simultaneously the thought, "He's sad," went through my head.  I shrugged and walked past but I was left unsettled by what I'd seen in his expression.

I wasn't surprised when twenty minutes later he sat next to me on the plane.  It almost felt like we were destined to wind up seated next to each other.  He, with a story to tell, and I … always ready to hear a story worth writing down.

I usually read my Kindle while flying.  I immerse myself in novels and hope the time passes quickly.  I didn't even bother to remove it from my bag.  I knew before he ever spoke a word, my story during the flight would come from this man.

His name was Michael.  We exchanged a few pleasantries about traveling.  We were both returning home from a trip.  I had left my son three thousand miles away from home and I was doing my best not to think about it.  Michael, it turned out, was leaving the One Great Love of his life behind on his own journey home.

Michael wanted to talk and I wanted to listen.  He started off slowly, shyly.  As we talked he relaxed and the words began to pour from him.

Her name was Jessica.  They had been lovers when they were young.  He had known, without question, Jessica would one day be his wife.  They spent four years together but never married.  They were happy years, youthful years … years believing they could conquer the world together.

Then life interfered with the romance between them.  I won't go into all the details here but Michael and Jessica were separated.  Initially the separation was just physical while they were in two different cities.  In time, the separation became emotional and the couple parted ways.

Things like this happen all the time.  Don't most of us have relationships from our youth in our past? 

Michael and Jessica moved on with their lives.  Michael, apparently, never completely let go of his love for Jessica.  He told me he had other relationships.  He told me he had loved other women.  Michael and Jessica both went on to marry other people eventually.

"I loved my wife," he said, "But it wasn't the same kind of love."  His eyes pleaded with me to understand.  I saw sadness and love and guilt mingling together in his eyes.
 
I understood.  I could see it in his soul.  He may have loved others during his life, but his heart had never stopped longing for Jessica.  She was the one great love of his life and he had never forgotten her.

Michael's wife died two years ago from cancer.

I admit, as I listened to him speak, skepticism initially ran through my head.  Thoughts like, "mid-life crisis" popped into my mind.  After a few hours with Michael, however, I was left simply believing he loved this woman, Jessica, with his heart and soul and always had. 

I can't speak for Jessica.  All I know from her point of view is what Michael told me.  According to him, Jessica is currently separated from her husband.  She lives on the opposite side of the country from Michael.  They've corresponded by email and IM and bi-weekly phone calls.  She professes she has never "gotten over" Michael either.

He traveled to see her.  He put all his hopes and dreams into the visit.  He grinned as he told me they're both "older now, with a cushion of fat, a lot of wrinkles, and a little worse for wear."

She told him she can't leave the city where her (grown) children are.  Her daughter is expecting her first grandchild.  His work doesn't allow for him to move where she is.  She feels pressure from her family and friends to reconcile with her husband, although she told Michael she hasn't been happy in her marriage for "years."  She's been separated from her husband for six months.

He visited her for three days.  At the end of three days she said good-bye to him with tears in her eyes.  She doesn't want to pursue a "dead-end relationship" since she sees no hope for the two of them to ever be together.  His eyes brimmed with tears as he told me her parting words.  She told him she loves him, always has, and always will.

I felt my own eyes well up with tears as I listened to him.  

Is it possible?

I'm such a skeptic.  I'm such a cynic.

Can two people truly have a love for each other like this?  One that lasts through all those years?  One that lasts through other relationships and even marriages to other people?

I will never know if Michael and Jessica eventually overcome the obstacles in front of them.  

I will always wonder.

© Twenty Four At Heart

90 Responses to “One Love?”

  1. Alan

    Nice story. I have met people like this when traveling. Not the same story but there are really good stories out there if you choose to listen. This is definitely one of the better ones. Wonder how it will turn out?

  2. Alan

    Nice story. I have met people like this when traveling. Not the same story but there are really good stories out there if you choose to listen. This is definitely one of the better ones. Wonder how it will turn out?

  3. Alan

    Nice story. I have met people like this when traveling. Not the same story but there are really good stories out there if you choose to listen. This is definitely one of the better ones. Wonder how it will turn out?

  4. di

    It’s always been my belief that once your children are grown to adults and out the door that they become secondary to any love relationship in your life. Jessica will always want what she never had if she chooses to pass this man by. Poor guy. 🙁 And yes!! I think that for many of us there is only one true love in life. Time to move on, Michael.

  5. di

    It’s always been my belief that once your children are grown to adults and out the door that they become secondary to any love relationship in your life. Jessica will always want what she never had if she chooses to pass this man by. Poor guy. 🙁 And yes!! I think that for many of us there is only one true love in life. Time to move on, Michael.

  6. di

    It’s always been my belief that once your children are grown to adults and out the door that they become secondary to any love relationship in your life. Jessica will always want what she never had if she chooses to pass this man by. Poor guy. 🙁 And yes!! I think that for many of us there is only one true love in life. Time to move on, Michael.

  7. Lori

    Congrats on your winning! What a lovely story. I love meeting people when I travel because it seems everyone has a story and I love to listen to their stories. I tend to think that love like this exists. How sad for this man and this woman. I hope that they are able to work things out and be together at this stage in their lives. Great post!

  8. Lori

    Congrats on your winning! What a lovely story. I love meeting people when I travel because it seems everyone has a story and I love to listen to their stories. I tend to think that love like this exists. How sad for this man and this woman. I hope that they are able to work things out and be together at this stage in their lives. Great post!

  9. Lori

    Congrats on your winning! What a lovely story. I love meeting people when I travel because it seems everyone has a story and I love to listen to their stories. I tend to think that love like this exists. How sad for this man and this woman. I hope that they are able to work things out and be together at this stage in their lives. Great post!

  10. vodkamom

    i loved that story…..and wonder how many other loves out there have never been???
    congrats on the win!!!

  11. vodkamom

    i loved that story…..and wonder how many other loves out there have never been???
    congrats on the win!!!

  12. vodkamom

    i loved that story…..and wonder how many other loves out there have never been???
    congrats on the win!!!

  13. Donna in VA

    I hate to be the cynic. I do, however, believe that they believed in the “idea” that they loved each other all those years, but in reality, they didn’t even KNOW each other anymore.
    I recently ran into an old flame (for the lack of a better word) from many years ago and he instantly wanted to rekindle something – instantly. He even said things to me that he would have said 18 years ago. But I’ve changed SO MUCH over the years, and I clearly saw that he hadn’t changed one iota. It was really eye-opening for me. Still trying to digest it.

  14. Donna in VA

    I hate to be the cynic. I do, however, believe that they believed in the “idea” that they loved each other all those years, but in reality, they didn’t even KNOW each other anymore.
    I recently ran into an old flame (for the lack of a better word) from many years ago and he instantly wanted to rekindle something – instantly. He even said things to me that he would have said 18 years ago. But I’ve changed SO MUCH over the years, and I clearly saw that he hadn’t changed one iota. It was really eye-opening for me. Still trying to digest it.

  15. Donna in VA

    I hate to be the cynic. I do, however, believe that they believed in the “idea” that they loved each other all those years, but in reality, they didn’t even KNOW each other anymore.
    I recently ran into an old flame (for the lack of a better word) from many years ago and he instantly wanted to rekindle something – instantly. He even said things to me that he would have said 18 years ago. But I’ve changed SO MUCH over the years, and I clearly saw that he hadn’t changed one iota. It was really eye-opening for me. Still trying to digest it.

  16. Kristan

    AWWWW. What a great story.
    I’m a hopeless romantic, so I believe this sort of thing can happen. I’ll be hoping for the best for them!

  17. Kristan

    AWWWW. What a great story.
    I’m a hopeless romantic, so I believe this sort of thing can happen. I’ll be hoping for the best for them!

  18. Kristan

    AWWWW. What a great story.
    I’m a hopeless romantic, so I believe this sort of thing can happen. I’ll be hoping for the best for them!

  19. Jan

    Amen, Donna in VA. Sorry, but I’m cynical, too. I also agree with Di – once your children are grown and on their own, they become secondary to your personal relationship with whomever you are sharing/want to share your life with. Would you ask your grown child to give up their hopes, dreams, ambitions and/or significant other to stay with or near you? No? Works both ways.
    If answered “Yes” to that question, may I suggest a good therapist for your adult child?

  20. Jan

    Amen, Donna in VA. Sorry, but I’m cynical, too. I also agree with Di – once your children are grown and on their own, they become secondary to your personal relationship with whomever you are sharing/want to share your life with. Would you ask your grown child to give up their hopes, dreams, ambitions and/or significant other to stay with or near you? No? Works both ways.
    If answered “Yes” to that question, may I suggest a good therapist for your adult child?

  21. Jan

    Amen, Donna in VA. Sorry, but I’m cynical, too. I also agree with Di – once your children are grown and on their own, they become secondary to your personal relationship with whomever you are sharing/want to share your life with. Would you ask your grown child to give up their hopes, dreams, ambitions and/or significant other to stay with or near you? No? Works both ways.
    If answered “Yes” to that question, may I suggest a good therapist for your adult child?

  22. Kelly

    Touching. At what point does Jessica live for herself? Yet, she’s also going through an emotional upheaval right now being separated. Maybe she just needs a little time to sort through her life. I’m a cynic too but I know there are people that truly do only have one love.

  23. Kelly

    Touching. At what point does Jessica live for herself? Yet, she’s also going through an emotional upheaval right now being separated. Maybe she just needs a little time to sort through her life. I’m a cynic too but I know there are people that truly do only have one love.

  24. Kelly

    Touching. At what point does Jessica live for herself? Yet, she’s also going through an emotional upheaval right now being separated. Maybe she just needs a little time to sort through her life. I’m a cynic too but I know there are people that truly do only have one love.

  25. churchpunkmom

    ah, what a bittersweet story. but yes, I do believe that it’s possible. people can certainly love more than one person in a lifetime, and they can certainly continue to love past loves despite moving on with life.
    sometimes it’s all too easy to ‘pick up where you left off’. 😉

  26. churchpunkmom

    ah, what a bittersweet story. but yes, I do believe that it’s possible. people can certainly love more than one person in a lifetime, and they can certainly continue to love past loves despite moving on with life.
    sometimes it’s all too easy to ‘pick up where you left off’. 😉

  27. churchpunkmom

    ah, what a bittersweet story. but yes, I do believe that it’s possible. people can certainly love more than one person in a lifetime, and they can certainly continue to love past loves despite moving on with life.
    sometimes it’s all too easy to ‘pick up where you left off’. 😉

  28. Margie

    A sad story. But, just curious, how they found each other after all these years? Did he mention that?

  29. Margie

    A sad story. But, just curious, how they found each other after all these years? Did he mention that?

  30. Margie

    A sad story. But, just curious, how they found each other after all these years? Did he mention that?

  31. Liz C

    I hope I’m a realist, but not completely cynical. Is it an idealized love? Probably, most love is. Could they really make it work? Who knows.
    What’s so sad is that it appears they won’t have the chance to try; a chance to find out what ‘might have been’.

  32. Liz C

    I hope I’m a realist, but not completely cynical. Is it an idealized love? Probably, most love is. Could they really make it work? Who knows.
    What’s so sad is that it appears they won’t have the chance to try; a chance to find out what ‘might have been’.

  33. Liz C

    I hope I’m a realist, but not completely cynical. Is it an idealized love? Probably, most love is. Could they really make it work? Who knows.
    What’s so sad is that it appears they won’t have the chance to try; a chance to find out what ‘might have been’.

  34. Redneck Mommy

    An idealized love never brought to fruition is so heart wrenching.
    But I truly believe there is more than one person out there for everyone if you open yourself up to it.
    But then I’m a skeptic and a cynic and an emotional cripple so what the hell do I know?

  35. Redneck Mommy

    An idealized love never brought to fruition is so heart wrenching.
    But I truly believe there is more than one person out there for everyone if you open yourself up to it.
    But then I’m a skeptic and a cynic and an emotional cripple so what the hell do I know?

  36. Redneck Mommy

    An idealized love never brought to fruition is so heart wrenching.
    But I truly believe there is more than one person out there for everyone if you open yourself up to it.
    But then I’m a skeptic and a cynic and an emotional cripple so what the hell do I know?

  37. missy

    Did you give him your card so he could follow up the story with you? This is a cliffhanger for your readers.

  38. missy

    Did you give him your card so he could follow up the story with you? This is a cliffhanger for your readers.

  39. missy

    Did you give him your card so he could follow up the story with you? This is a cliffhanger for your readers.

  40. Linda

    Great story! I believe that a person can have more than one love in a lifetime. I believe with Di & Jan that once the kids are grown it’s time to re-start living your own life. I also believe that if Jessica can’t or won’t include Michael in her life he needs to move on.

  41. Linda

    Great story! I believe that a person can have more than one love in a lifetime. I believe with Di & Jan that once the kids are grown it’s time to re-start living your own life. I also believe that if Jessica can’t or won’t include Michael in her life he needs to move on.

  42. Linda

    Great story! I believe that a person can have more than one love in a lifetime. I believe with Di & Jan that once the kids are grown it’s time to re-start living your own life. I also believe that if Jessica can’t or won’t include Michael in her life he needs to move on.

  43. Jack

    I believe in soul mates. I don’t believe that there is just one person that can fill that role for us. Have to be at least 100, but the hard part is that you don’t always have that opportunity to meet and recognize them.
    And I definitely believe that there are some loves that you never really get over.

  44. Jack

    I believe in soul mates. I don’t believe that there is just one person that can fill that role for us. Have to be at least 100, but the hard part is that you don’t always have that opportunity to meet and recognize them.
    And I definitely believe that there are some loves that you never really get over.

  45. Jack

    I believe in soul mates. I don’t believe that there is just one person that can fill that role for us. Have to be at least 100, but the hard part is that you don’t always have that opportunity to meet and recognize them.
    And I definitely believe that there are some loves that you never really get over.

  46. Debrabby

    Yes indeed there are some loves unfilled that you never release or get over. I can believe that part of him has held onto an idealized “perfect” love that in reality doesn’t exist, who knows if it could work out. Only having his side makes you wonder about Jessica and her motives. It just seemed he loved her more than she loved him.But I hope he does put his life on forward and moves on.

  47. Debrabby

    Yes indeed there are some loves unfilled that you never release or get over. I can believe that part of him has held onto an idealized “perfect” love that in reality doesn’t exist, who knows if it could work out. Only having his side makes you wonder about Jessica and her motives. It just seemed he loved her more than she loved him.But I hope he does put his life on forward and moves on.

  48. Debrabby

    Yes indeed there are some loves unfilled that you never release or get over. I can believe that part of him has held onto an idealized “perfect” love that in reality doesn’t exist, who knows if it could work out. Only having his side makes you wonder about Jessica and her motives. It just seemed he loved her more than she loved him.But I hope he does put his life on forward and moves on.

  49. Cute~Ella

    I want to believe that there is love like that out there…and there might be…But I’m with the above who say that more likely than not, it’s that they are in love with the idea of what they have.
    I hope I’m wrong though.
    By the way, read “Love, Rosie” Cecelia Ahern, if you haven’t already. It’s a love story 🙂

  50. Cute~Ella

    I want to believe that there is love like that out there…and there might be…But I’m with the above who say that more likely than not, it’s that they are in love with the idea of what they have.
    I hope I’m wrong though.
    By the way, read “Love, Rosie” Cecelia Ahern, if you haven’t already. It’s a love story 🙂

  51. Cute~Ella

    I want to believe that there is love like that out there…and there might be…But I’m with the above who say that more likely than not, it’s that they are in love with the idea of what they have.
    I hope I’m wrong though.
    By the way, read “Love, Rosie” Cecelia Ahern, if you haven’t already. It’s a love story 🙂

  52. Midlife Mama

    Yes. I can say without equivocation yes. Yes yes yes, 100% yes.
    I’ve experienced it.
    And it is heartbreaking. I will not ever love someone the way I love this Georgia man. 3,000 miles away from me and he will forever be the love of my life. *sigh*

  53. Midlife Mama

    Yes. I can say without equivocation yes. Yes yes yes, 100% yes.
    I’ve experienced it.
    And it is heartbreaking. I will not ever love someone the way I love this Georgia man. 3,000 miles away from me and he will forever be the love of my life. *sigh*

  54. Midlife Mama

    Yes. I can say without equivocation yes. Yes yes yes, 100% yes.
    I’ve experienced it.
    And it is heartbreaking. I will not ever love someone the way I love this Georgia man. 3,000 miles away from me and he will forever be the love of my life. *sigh*

  55. anonymous

    What about when you both are married, raising kids, and seemingly out of nowhere, without warning, there she is. Instantaneous, ( I don’t use that word carelessly) completely overlapping souls. Every word, every look, every thought, every emotion, every sensual feeling, every feeling of overwhelming guilt, every tear, EVERYTHING you never believed possible. What then? How is it possible to straddle 2 worlds? Euphoria drowning in betrayal. Once you’ve done the “right thing,” how do you put the omnipresent and gut ripping devastation to your soul back in it’s neat little box? You can’t. You survive. You don’t play certain music and don’t dream awake anymore. You accept the constant melancholy companionship of a solitary burden shared by the only one you can no longer share with. You cry more during chick flicks. You drink more. You focus on your kids. And EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. you hurt.

  56. anonymous

    What about when you both are married, raising kids, and seemingly out of nowhere, without warning, there she is. Instantaneous, ( I don’t use that word carelessly) completely overlapping souls. Every word, every look, every thought, every emotion, every sensual feeling, every feeling of overwhelming guilt, every tear, EVERYTHING you never believed possible. What then? How is it possible to straddle 2 worlds? Euphoria drowning in betrayal. Once you’ve done the “right thing,” how do you put the omnipresent and gut ripping devastation to your soul back in it’s neat little box? You can’t. You survive. You don’t play certain music and don’t dream awake anymore. You accept the constant melancholy companionship of a solitary burden shared by the only one you can no longer share with. You cry more during chick flicks. You drink more. You focus on your kids. And EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. you hurt.

  57. anonymous

    What about when you both are married, raising kids, and seemingly out of nowhere, without warning, there she is. Instantaneous, ( I don’t use that word carelessly) completely overlapping souls. Every word, every look, every thought, every emotion, every sensual feeling, every feeling of overwhelming guilt, every tear, EVERYTHING you never believed possible. What then? How is it possible to straddle 2 worlds? Euphoria drowning in betrayal. Once you’ve done the “right thing,” how do you put the omnipresent and gut ripping devastation to your soul back in it’s neat little box? You can’t. You survive. You don’t play certain music and don’t dream awake anymore. You accept the constant melancholy companionship of a solitary burden shared by the only one you can no longer share with. You cry more during chick flicks. You drink more. You focus on your kids. And EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. you hurt.

  58. Kari-Mel

    I guess anonymous missed the part about them living 3000 miles apart and that not really being a possibility and just wanted to throw a damper into what was just a sweet conversation about how it is to have loved and lost.

  59. Kari-Mel

    I guess anonymous missed the part about them living 3000 miles apart and that not really being a possibility and just wanted to throw a damper into what was just a sweet conversation about how it is to have loved and lost.

  60. Kari-Mel

    I guess anonymous missed the part about them living 3000 miles apart and that not really being a possibility and just wanted to throw a damper into what was just a sweet conversation about how it is to have loved and lost.

  61. nuckingfutsmama

    What an amazing story! Almost sounds like a movie. It’s sad to think that those kind of loves seem to be so rare these days. Maybe they’ll find a way to make it work somehow someday. (Of course, the pessimist in me says that maybe they weren’t actually meant to be together then.) I hope they prove me wrong though….
    Congrats again on your win!

  62. nuckingfutsmama

    What an amazing story! Almost sounds like a movie. It’s sad to think that those kind of loves seem to be so rare these days. Maybe they’ll find a way to make it work somehow someday. (Of course, the pessimist in me says that maybe they weren’t actually meant to be together then.) I hope they prove me wrong though….
    Congrats again on your win!

  63. nuckingfutsmama

    What an amazing story! Almost sounds like a movie. It’s sad to think that those kind of loves seem to be so rare these days. Maybe they’ll find a way to make it work somehow someday. (Of course, the pessimist in me says that maybe they weren’t actually meant to be together then.) I hope they prove me wrong though….
    Congrats again on your win!

  64. Sarah

    I’m generally with the cynics, and with them being in love with the idea of what they’d once shared. Definitely think there’s more than one soulmate out there, and I think it’s silly and hurtful to assume that always includes a rabidly delicious physical relationship – at least for me. Doesn’t mean you can’t share an amazing relationship while honoring your commitments. If you’re both strong enough.
    Even if Michael’s wife didn’t inspire that same incredible love he shared with Jessica doesn’t mean he can’t or won’t find a deeper love now – I hope he gives himself that chance. It’s sad that Jessica seems resigned to never knowing for sure. Safer that way, I guess.
    I also think about the other spouses – not in an uppity “how could they” way, but … what if you’re secretly pining away for someone from your youth, missing all the while that YOU are the love of someone else’s life? Missing all that potential, right there with you.
    Enjoyed it though! Wish you were going to find out how it all goes down.

  65. Sarah

    I’m generally with the cynics, and with them being in love with the idea of what they’d once shared. Definitely think there’s more than one soulmate out there, and I think it’s silly and hurtful to assume that always includes a rabidly delicious physical relationship – at least for me. Doesn’t mean you can’t share an amazing relationship while honoring your commitments. If you’re both strong enough.
    Even if Michael’s wife didn’t inspire that same incredible love he shared with Jessica doesn’t mean he can’t or won’t find a deeper love now – I hope he gives himself that chance. It’s sad that Jessica seems resigned to never knowing for sure. Safer that way, I guess.
    I also think about the other spouses – not in an uppity “how could they” way, but … what if you’re secretly pining away for someone from your youth, missing all the while that YOU are the love of someone else’s life? Missing all that potential, right there with you.
    Enjoyed it though! Wish you were going to find out how it all goes down.

  66. Sarah

    I’m generally with the cynics, and with them being in love with the idea of what they’d once shared. Definitely think there’s more than one soulmate out there, and I think it’s silly and hurtful to assume that always includes a rabidly delicious physical relationship – at least for me. Doesn’t mean you can’t share an amazing relationship while honoring your commitments. If you’re both strong enough.
    Even if Michael’s wife didn’t inspire that same incredible love he shared with Jessica doesn’t mean he can’t or won’t find a deeper love now – I hope he gives himself that chance. It’s sad that Jessica seems resigned to never knowing for sure. Safer that way, I guess.
    I also think about the other spouses – not in an uppity “how could they” way, but … what if you’re secretly pining away for someone from your youth, missing all the while that YOU are the love of someone else’s life? Missing all that potential, right there with you.
    Enjoyed it though! Wish you were going to find out how it all goes down.

  67. Anon2

    “Can two people truly have a love for each other like this? One that lasts through all those years? One that lasts through other relationships and even marriages to other people?”
    I can unequivocally state that it does happen. And it’s unbearably hard. In my case, we also ended up apart in the end. But the love is still there.

  68. Anon2

    “Can two people truly have a love for each other like this? One that lasts through all those years? One that lasts through other relationships and even marriages to other people?”
    I can unequivocally state that it does happen. And it’s unbearably hard. In my case, we also ended up apart in the end. But the love is still there.

  69. Anon2

    “Can two people truly have a love for each other like this? One that lasts through all those years? One that lasts through other relationships and even marriages to other people?”
    I can unequivocally state that it does happen. And it’s unbearably hard. In my case, we also ended up apart in the end. But the love is still there.

  70. Fragrant Liar

    I want to believe love stories like this happen and are eventually requited. Gives me hope in the power and endurance of love.

  71. Fragrant Liar

    I want to believe love stories like this happen and are eventually requited. Gives me hope in the power and endurance of love.

  72. Fragrant Liar

    I want to believe love stories like this happen and are eventually requited. Gives me hope in the power and endurance of love.

  73. V-Grrrl at Compost Studios

    I don’t believe in One Perfect Love (even though I’ve been married for 27 years now, or maybe that should read BECAUSE I’ve been married for 27 years now.)
    I think the *idea* of One Perfect Love ruins a lot of good lives and good relationships.
    We can love people for different reasons, in different ways, at different stages of our lives.
    Why do Jessica and Michael think the only way to have a meaningful relationship is to live together? Why do they see their relationship as “impossible” or a dead end?
    They see it that way because they want to see it that way. They can accept their current circumstances and their feelings for one another and accept their relationship as it is. Or they can continue to stoke the fantasy of Perfect Love and the One that Got Away and enjoy the drama that creates in their heads. I think they love the “story” more than they love each other.

  74. V-Grrrl at Compost Studios

    I don’t believe in One Perfect Love (even though I’ve been married for 27 years now, or maybe that should read BECAUSE I’ve been married for 27 years now.)
    I think the *idea* of One Perfect Love ruins a lot of good lives and good relationships.
    We can love people for different reasons, in different ways, at different stages of our lives.
    Why do Jessica and Michael think the only way to have a meaningful relationship is to live together? Why do they see their relationship as “impossible” or a dead end?
    They see it that way because they want to see it that way. They can accept their current circumstances and their feelings for one another and accept their relationship as it is. Or they can continue to stoke the fantasy of Perfect Love and the One that Got Away and enjoy the drama that creates in their heads. I think they love the “story” more than they love each other.

  75. V-Grrrl at Compost Studios

    I don’t believe in One Perfect Love (even though I’ve been married for 27 years now, or maybe that should read BECAUSE I’ve been married for 27 years now.)
    I think the *idea* of One Perfect Love ruins a lot of good lives and good relationships.
    We can love people for different reasons, in different ways, at different stages of our lives.
    Why do Jessica and Michael think the only way to have a meaningful relationship is to live together? Why do they see their relationship as “impossible” or a dead end?
    They see it that way because they want to see it that way. They can accept their current circumstances and their feelings for one another and accept their relationship as it is. Or they can continue to stoke the fantasy of Perfect Love and the One that Got Away and enjoy the drama that creates in their heads. I think they love the “story” more than they love each other.

  76. Sandra

    If I were Jessica, I would not be leaving my newly to be born grandchild. Heck no! I want a close relationship with my grandchildren. If he wants to move near me that’s a different story.
    I have many young loves that I still wonder what could have happened. I still dream about my high school boyfriend. I wish he’d stay out of my head.

  77. Sandra

    If I were Jessica, I would not be leaving my newly to be born grandchild. Heck no! I want a close relationship with my grandchildren. If he wants to move near me that’s a different story.
    I have many young loves that I still wonder what could have happened. I still dream about my high school boyfriend. I wish he’d stay out of my head.

  78. Sandra

    If I were Jessica, I would not be leaving my newly to be born grandchild. Heck no! I want a close relationship with my grandchildren. If he wants to move near me that’s a different story.
    I have many young loves that I still wonder what could have happened. I still dream about my high school boyfriend. I wish he’d stay out of my head.

  79. sometimessophia

    Yes… It’s a marvelous story that sounds like a Bridges of Madison County sequel. Write it up, girl, I think you have a screen play there.

  80. sometimessophia

    Yes… It’s a marvelous story that sounds like a Bridges of Madison County sequel. Write it up, girl, I think you have a screen play there.

  81. sometimessophia

    Yes… It’s a marvelous story that sounds like a Bridges of Madison County sequel. Write it up, girl, I think you have a screen play there.

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