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The topic of sex addiction has been brought up to me three times in ten days. Most recently, a friend told me her marriage is ending as a result of her husband's sex addiction.
I don't know if I believe in sex addiction. I don't know that I DON'T believe in it either.
It seems like sex addicted women used to just be called sluts. Sex addicted men were called ladies men, or more likely, pigs.
Now it seems like every bad habit is called an addiction.
My friend tells me her husband "needs" constant sexual stimulation. Porn, and a variety of partners (who he has tried unsuccessfully to keep hidden from his wife), are his methods of feeding his habit. A (big) part of me feels he's throwing the word "addiction" at his wife as an excuse for bad behavior. If he's addicted to sex then she is expected to be more understanding of his escapades, I suppose.
After all, an addict cannot be expected to have control over their habit, right? At least not without professional treatment and guidance, and maybe not even then.
I happen to know this particular man, and my nonprofessional opinion is that he's just a self-indulgent asshole with little regard for the damage his selfishness causes other people.
Not to be harsh or anything ….
I'm not condoning infidelity, but it's easier to wrap my brain around someone having a meaningful affair vs. someone who wants to screw everything in sight.
I don't really have a lot to write about this topic. It's on my mind right now because I see my friend in distress over the demise of her marriage. I brought it up here today because I'm curious as to what your thoughts are.
Do you believe sex addiction is a real addiction or just an excuse for infidelity?
Do you think people with this "addiction" can be cured or learn to control it?
Would you stay with a partner who was repeatedly unfaithful and blamed their behavior on being a sex addict?
I'm curious to hear your opinion. You are also welcome to share any experiences you might have with this topic.
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