A few weeks ago, BHJ wrote a post which he said would "piss off lazy fat people." You can read it by clicking here.
After the post published, there was a flurry of people discussing fat acceptance (pros and cons) on their blogs and on twitter.
I added my two cents in the comment section of BHJ's post, but my mind keeps coming back to this controversial topic again and again.
A few things struck me after reading the original post.
First of all, I think if a woman had written it she would be crucified on the spot.
Second, life is not black and white and the post doesn't leave much room for life's many shades of grey.
So, let's discuss the topic here, today.
Are there lazy, fat, people in this world?
Yes, I'm sure there are.
Should these people be in bikinis at BHJ's community pool grossing him out?
Sure, why not?
Maybe there should be an Obese People of the World bikini/speedo contest at BHJ's community pool with the express purpose of grossing him out.
(Although, as I wrote last week in my post Beach Etiquette 101, I'm one hundred percent pro people wearing bathing suits which fit them. Nothing looks worse than someone squeezing into a too-small suit.)
Should people be proud of their fat?
Should people accept themselves the way they are, or hide in their houses until they can pass the judgment of everyone who is thinner than they are?
How do any of us really know the fat person is proud of their fat and not actually deeply ashamed?
Or perhaps they're just proud of the fact they are now several pounds thinner than they were a few months ago?
How fat is too fat?
Who gets to be the judge?
Does fat equal lazy?
And if you answered yes, what makes you so sure?
I'm throwing all these questions out there because I want to hear your thoughts.
It's only fair, I suppose, I should be honest enough to share my thoughts with you also.
I acknowledge some people are fat because they're lazy.
I agree with BHJ, there seems to be a shortage of people taking personal responsibility for themselves. Lots of people make excuses for themselves instead of owning up to their responsibility for the choices and decisions they make – and the consequences of those choices.
Being overweight is not healthy. I don't think anyone argues that fact.
Feeding your kid(s) a consistently unhealthy diet is, in my opinion, negligent parenting.
No, I'm not talking about an occasional fast food meal – I'm talking about feeding your kids nothing but junk on a regular basis. If your ten year old child weighs over two hundred pounds, in my mind, you've committed child abuse. (Assuming, there are no medical conditions causing the situation.) A young child is not capable of purchasing and preparing their own food and it's the parent's responsibility to provide a healthy diet.
When it comes to fat adults, this is what I know ….
Everyone has a story.
Everyone has a story and unless a particular person has chosen to share the details of their story with you, it's presumptuous to judge them.
You don't know, just by seeing someone, if they have a medical condition causing them to be fat.
You don't know, just by seeing someone, if they are fifty pounds thinner than they were a year ago. Nor do you know what amount of work and dedication it took for them to accomplish that goal.
You don't know, just by seeing someone, if they are on a medication which causes weight gain or makes it virtually impossible to lose weight.
You don't know, just by seeing someone, if they are unable to exercise due to a "hidden" disability or medical condition.
You don't know, just by seeing someone, if she bought that bikini as a reward for losing one hundred pounds … even though she still has another 150 pounds to go.
You don't know, if after battling and freeing himself of alcohol and drug addition, he decided to accept himself with an extra fifty pounds.
Can most people lose weight if they choose to?
Yes, most overweight people can and should. I'm certainly not condoning an unhealthy lifestyle.
The problem is, I don't think we should be sitting poolside (or at the beach) judging total strangers about their weight.
Everyone's got a story …
And … none of us are perfect.
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