A New Man In My Life?

It takes a village to raise a child.

I’ve come to the conclusion it also takes a village to “manage” me.

My mountains this weekend.

I’ve been very fortunate to have some very talented medical-type folks help me since my car accident.

There were a couple people I’d have been better off without, too.  But hey, life is not perfect.

Some of the people who have helped me have become more than doctors or physical/occupational therapists to me.

They’ve become friends.

(That happens sometimes when you’re The Patient That Never Goes Away.)

In any case, it has gotten to the point where I have a team helping me live my life better.

I have Dr. Painless, my pain management specialist.  Thank God for him.  I might have jumped off a bridge if he hadn’t come into my life.  I sure as hell wouldn’t be holding a professional camera again.

I have Dr. BigWig, the best shoulder surgeon in the world.  When he first saw me, I’d already had three previous surgeries.  I was in terrible pain.  I adamantly refused more surgery.  He insisted.  I’m grateful.

I have The Neanderthal, who tortures me regularly with A.R.T. treatments.  (A.R.T. hurts like hell, but helps my continually freaking-out muscles de-spasm.)

Now, I have a new man on my “Let’s help Suzanne function as best as possible” team.

He’s a physical therapist and he’s an addition, not a replacement to my team.

(Sorry, I don’t have a “blog name” for him yet, although endless possibilities have already presented themselves.  Ha!  Poor man!)

New PT came into my life at the suggestion of Dr. BigWig.

You know what’s fun?

Meeting someone new, and realizing they already know a lot about you via your blog.

Hello.  I’m Suzanne.  Apparently, you already know about my bikini waxes?!


New PT seems to have a sense of humor.

He also doesn’t seem to be fazed, in the least, by my inappropriate sense of humor.

My no-filter mouth might have already blurted out my fear of permanently inverted nipples.

(By the way, I don’t have inverted nipples.  But, that’s not the point …?!  Point, get it?  I’m SO funny!)

Some info for those of you who have followed my whole car accident saga:

•  New PT seemed to “get” my current physical situation.  I usually baffle people due to the high degree of my fucked-up-ed-ness since the accident.    I was glad he understood what’s going on with me so quickly, because … hello, six years of medical history.  (If I can’t remember what happened during which surgery, how can anyone else?)

•  At one point, I might have stamped my foot like a three year old and told New PT, “I want to be able to do MORE.”  (Kudos to him for not running out of the room immediately.)

•  New PT isn’t about “curing” me, but IS about increasing my function, and hopefully decreasing my pain level at the same time.

•  New PT is all about modifying me/my life/how I move/work.  (He already showed me how I can rotate my arm a little bit with certain movements and decrease some of the pain.  I will MARRY the person who someday invents a bicep tendon replacement.  I hope someone invents one soon!)

•  New PT understands (anatomically/physically) why I would currently fail at normal PT, and understands I’m a very long term project.

•  New PT might have called me unstable.  Are you surprised?

•  Oh wait, I think he meant my body – not ME??

•  New PT seems to have the patience for very slow progress over a lengthy period of time, and asked me if I do too ….

•  I don’t know if I could bear to trust in a PT wholeheartedly again, and have him give up on me.  There’s a huge vulnerability, and trust, that comes with an ongoing  PT/patient relationship.

•  New PT emphasized the need for what I’ve lived for years now –

•  Baby steps, baby steps, baby steps!  

I want to LIVE my life, not spend it at non-stop medical appointments.

New PT and I are going to take things slow

And isn’t that always the best policy when you’ve got a new man in your life?

P.S.  My first “real” appointment is tomorrow, Tuesday.  Not surprisingly, I was sore just from my (unplanned) consultation last week.

10 Responses to “A New Man In My Life?”

  1. Jan's Sushi Bar

    Holy cow, woman – TWO physical therapists now?? Although it sounds like this one is going to do some occupational therapy with you, as well, which is a GOOD thing.

  2. Suzanne

    Yep … but it isn’t a “normal” pt relationship w/either one. The Neanderthal just does ART on me one time each week. That helps the areas surrounding my injuries work better.

    New PT will be working more with changing how I do things, so that I can hopefully do more – and working on my injured area itself. I don’t (and won’t be) seeing either one of them on a regular PT schedule – it only makes me flare up when I get “handled.”

    I’m a giant experiment …
    One dose of ART each week …. and then maybe 5 or 10 minutes of New PT once every couple weeks.

  3. Denise

    Whatever it takes to improve your quality of life, I think that’s great. And you are very fortunate to live in an area where there are resources for you.

    • Suzanne

      There are a lot of medical people in the vicinity, but they definitely aren’t all GOOD.
      And ….
      My insurance pays for nothing, at this point.
      Cost of care is a problem.

      • Kathy

        WHAT?!! Ouch. I won’t ask for details but seriously? Wow.

        (And for Denise…I live in Podunk nowhere. I still managed to get lucky-and resourceful-and put together a team that works for me. Something I could not do in San Diego where I used to live. Too many posers and charlatans. So there is hope.)

  4. stacy g

    That’s interesting. good luck with the new pt guy. My bicep tendon is partially torn as is my rotator cuff but i opted, at least for now, to not do the surgery. oh, and I have a bone spur thingie which may be why things are torn inside. That’s from when my shoulder fractured, I think. Interesting how shoulders dont heal that well.

    • Suzanne

      I tell people to avoid surgery if at all possible.
      Of course, I’m very (negatively) biased since I’ve gone through so many …

      • stacy g

        and your opinion and shared experiences influenced my decision to not do surgery or at least not do it now.

  5. Kathy

    Having a good (strike that, great!) team makes all the difference. My deal is different than yours but after six long years of pain and fatigue my new team and I have come a very long way. I’m stoked that this PT gets it!! And I can hardly wait to see his blog name. (no pressure of course 🙂

    • Suzanne

      I have to be careful with the blog name ….
      I’d hate for him to kick me out of PT before I really get going! : )


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