A few of my friends are currently immersed in The OC dating world.
They share war stories with me, and I cringe at the thought of dating in Orange County.
Yes, we have beauty surrounding us – the coast and our mountains.
But, there’s also an extremely high percentage of shallow, materialistic, people living here.
I realize life is much simpler if you can pay your bills than if you can’t.
I’m not pretending, for a minute, life is easy (especially in high-cost-of-living Orange County) without money.
Money, however, is just not a motivator for me.
I guess what I’m saying is,
I would never, ever, date/marry/friend someone for their money.
How can people do that?
And yet, people DO.
In fact, it often feels like “everyone” here does exactly that.
I have affluent friends and I have friends who are really struggling financially.
What do they have in common?
They’re my friends because I genuinely LIKE them, not because of what they do, or do not, own.
Do middle aged men really think someone decades younger is interested in them for their personality?
Are their egos so big, they’ve convinced themselves they’re studlier than all the younger men?
Or do they feel like they’re more worthy (of what????) with some sort of “trophy” standing next to them?
Women do it too.
I have wealthy female friends who win men over with money – offering THINGS (vacations/cars/gifts) to “hot” men in exchange for their attention.
But it does seem to happen more with affluent men and younger women.
Are people willing to sacrifice their lives/happiness just for easy access to cash?
How can people spend time with people they don’t really like?
I was thinking about all this recently.
I started thinking about motivation.
What drives people?
For some people it’s money.
For some people it’s power.
For some people it’s fame.
For some people it’s a strong need for continual ego stroking.
Thinking about it made me start looking at myself.
What motivates me?
I think I’m motivated by –
Beauty in nature ….
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I can (and do!) spend hours outdoors.
I have to.
It’s a huge part of who I am.
Want to make me miserable?
Lock me up indoors for a few days!
I’m also motivated by,
I like to DO things.
I like to SEE things.
I seem to have an unquenchable thirst for experiences.
Part of that thirst is a result of my passion for photography,
Doing and seeing new things makes photography more fun.
But it’s also what makes life enjoyable for me.
Have you thought about what motivates you?